September 20, 2013
Seventeen years ago today, Dan and I had our first date. Gosh, we were BABIES, just seventeen years old.
If you think about that math for a moment, that means we’ve been together for half of our lives now. That is a crazy milestone. We’ve been through everything together- all the Big Stuff. High School graduation, college, college graduation, first cars, first jobs, first house… all of it. With him.
Sometimes I feel like it’s just dumb luck that we lasted through college together, and even our 20s. We got married so young- I had just turned 23, Dan was still 22. At the time we felt all KINDS of grown up, but looking back, OMG we were clueless. So young.
But we made it through those young and dumb years somehow. Found our footing with careers and each other and figured out our Plan together.
I’m being honest when I say that being married to Dan is really easy. He makes it WAY easy for me (no idea if he’d say the same thing about me… maybe I don’t want to know the answer to that one? haaaa). He makes me laugh and keeps me sane. He forces me to remember that things aren’t SO SERIOUS and TERRIBLE. He’s the most patient person I’ve ever met in my life. He puts up with my hare-brained ideas and projects and ignores my temper and ability to blow things out of proportion. Heck, he also puts up with me sharing a LOT of our lives publicly on the internet! He’s a nerd with me. He was there to cheer me on when I quit my job seven years ago to work for myself and he has never made me feel like I couldn’t do something. Ever.
He’s the very best kind of friend.
And now we have three babies. Three people who are the best and worst parts of both of us. I never imagined when I said yes to a date with that cute boy from work at seventeen years old that it would lead to all of this.
For me, this year has been the hardest year of all in our time together, just because I feel like most of the time lately, we’re struggling to find each other. Three kids is HARD for two people to manage and still have time/energy for ourselves and the other person. But I know we both realize that this is where we are in our lives right now and it won’t be like this forever… or for very long. A blessing and a curse, really.
I do sometimes miss when we were young and carefree, with the big decision of the week being where we would go and park the car on Friday night (HAAAAA), but I also can’t imagine being anywhere but here, at home, with my best friend and three ridiculously cute kids.
In another seventeen years, Maggie and Audrey will both be in their 20s and Zach will be in high school (OMG EXCUSE ME I JUST VOMITED AND THEN PASSED OUT AND ALSO CRIED A LITTLE BIT.) I have no doubt that I will still love this man. Very much.
Happy date-a-versary, Dan!