May 19, 2011
The other night on the Survivor finale, there was a surprise proposal during the live Reunion show. It was… a little bit awkward and to be honest, I thought for a moment that she might say no. On live television. In front of eleventy billion people.
It’s a risk that all guys who choose a Very Public Proposal take: she may say no and people will SEE IT HAPPEN. Or, maybe in their minds, it’s a safety net: maybe even if she WANTS to say no, she won’t because people will SEE IT HAPPEN. (and then later, she can back out. Which… how is that better?) Or maybe they are just Super Confident. I don’t know. Public proposals always make ME nervous, and I’m not the one putting myself on the line!
All of this got me thinking about marriage proposals in general and reminiscing about the night when Dan proposed to me. It wasn’t in front of television cameras, or even in a public place. It was in his (stinky! crowded!) dorm room during our senior year of college. Romantic! But honestly? It was perfect. Sweet, simple, and a long time coming ;)
We KNEW we were going to get married eventually. We talked about it a lot. But we were still in college, no money, no jobs, NO CARS. So there was no rush to make it Official since the actual wedding wouldn’t take place for years. But I would tease him all the time: WHERE’S MY RING, DAMMIT? Well finally, in 2000, I got my ring.
It wasn’t a gigantic public proposal (THANK GOD.), but he DID capture it on (hidden!) camera, because he knows my obsession with Documenting Everything In My Life On Film. And embarrassing him. So without further ado, I present Dan And Jen Get Engaged, complete with 90s ugly sweaters (what the HECK, DAN?) and Mousey-Voiced Jen.
Watching this now, after being married for nearly nine years and having two children together, it just… wow. It seems like another lifetime. We were SO YOUNG! Just twenty-one years old! So so glad I have it on video to enjoy and mock ;)
If you’ve been engaged and/or married, what was your proposal like? Big, grand gestures in front of a public audience? Or a quiet, private moment shared together? Or something in between?