Viva Las Vegas!

“I have to go out of town in April,” he said. “The week of your birthday.”

“Aw crap! Where are you going?” I asked.

“I… don’t want to tell you.”

Turns out, he’s going to Las Vegas for a conference. And staying at a REALLY SUPER AWESOME hotel. On my birthday. Next week.

And I’m going with him.


We’ve been parents for 4 years. And we are very very blessed with lots of opportunities for (free!) babysitting from family- the grandparents on each side live less then 15 minutes away and are always willing to help out. We’ve had many dinners and parties out and a couple of overnight sleepovers for Maggie at The Grandmas’ houses when she was old enough. But it’s been 4 years since we’ve had more than a day together- no kids, just us (unless you count last year when my mom watched Maggie for a few days while we traveled to Baltimore for his grandmother’s funeral and I was eating Jolly Ranchers by the bagful because they were the only thing that helped ease my first trimester nausea, but I’m pretty sure nobody would count THAT as a vacation.)

This winter was very very very long. I know just about everyone around here in western PA would agree. The weather was cold and dreary and snowy and neverending (case in point: it’s April 5th and it snowed this morning. GRR.) Add to the normal Winter Blahs a fussy, reflux-y, teething infant, struggles with breastfeeding, being stuck inside the house for days on end with said fussy baby and a three year old, plus all of us getting really sick in February, and a bunch of weeks strung together with very little sleep… and you can see why I finagled my way into this trip.

(A huuuuuge thank you to my mom, who is staying with the girls while we’re away, and also to Dan’s parents, who are filling in some gaps for the days when my mom has to work and the girls don’t have daycare. GRANDPARENTS RULE.)

I just… I need a break, you guys. I mean, we ALL do, I know. All of us parents, working so hard, all the time, for everybody else. It’s exhausting, right? I can’t tell you what it did for my spirits to have something to LOOK FORWARD TO in the midst of the February Snow and Cold and Sickness. I need to get away from it all. Away from laundry and washing bottles and stumbling into the baby’s room at 1am, 3am, 4am to replace a lost pacifier. Away from work (which is going fantastic, by the way! Very busy! Holy crap! Also: yay!)

But most importantly, honestly- I miss my husband. And I don’t mean that in a *winkwinknudgenudge* kind of way (although, okay, maybe just a LITTLE BIT in that way. ha) When you have a baby in the house (not to mention a preschooler), a lot of the times, you see the other Grown Up as another warm body to help out with things, rather than that person you love. Conversations revolve around poop and bottles and eating and napping and who is giving who a bath and can you grab that basket of laundry at the bottom of the steps for me? And often times it’s 11pm before we actually look at each other and go “Hey! How are ya? How was your day?” It’s a little bit sad, but it’s just how it is these days. We wouldn’t change a thing, obviously: we LOVE our girls!

But a break. Something grown up. A few conversations that DON’T involve bodily functions of either small human living in our house.


Dan of course has some geeky work things to attend for the conference- but while he’s doing that, I’ll be sleeping till AS LATE AS I WANT TO. Getting long, quiet, relaxing showers (without listening with one ear for a crying baby. THE LUXURY!) Lounging by the pool, reading Twitter on my phone and catching up on blogs without feeling guilty or bouncing a baby on my lap at the same time. Perhaps booking myself a 32nd birthday massage. Wandering around the resort with my camera, taking pictures of pretty things. And at night, we’ll be wearing fancy clothes for some cocktail parties. Gambling a little bit of money at the casinos. People-watching.

A few people have asked me if I’ll be nervous leaving the girls. One on hand- no, not at all. We’re leaving them in very capable hands all around, and I’m going to have a novel of instructions and things about Audrey so they’ll be well-prepared. And Maggie is almost a no-brainer these days, she’s so easy (and actually pretty helpful with the baby too!) But on the other hand- of COURSE I’m nervous. It’s the first time we’ll BOTH be leaving BOTH of them for more than few hours. And we’ll be on the other side of the country. And we’ve never left a little baby for this long, ever. So yeah, a little nervous. But that’s normal, I think.

And will I miss them? Yes. YES I WILL.

"She wants to watch me play Polly Pockets."

private concert

oh. hai.

I’m looking forward to it ;)


  1. Emily

    April 5, 2011 9:41 pm

    You’ll all do great. (You know that already, though.) I’m looking forward to seeing your pictures!

  2. Cari

    April 5, 2011 9:41 pm

    YAY for vacations!

    My birthday is later this month and my parents are gifting me with a plane ticket to visit my best friend whom I’ve not seen in 2 years. I’m so excited I could vibrate through a wall because, like you, I just need a break.

    I’m not going with my husband like you are (you lucky girl!) but I’m looking forward to a single weekend to myself anyway.

    I hope you have a really fabulous time!

  3. Athena

    April 5, 2011 9:43 pm

    Have fun – both of you! If you survive it, I may take that as a sign and go away this summer also…. might…. I’m debating about going to Pampered Chef National Conference in Chicago in July for 3 days. We’ll see.. but for all the sames reasons you listed above. So hard to be a mom and a wife… Enjoy your time together! And talk about more than kid stuff!

  4. C @ Kid Things

    April 5, 2011 9:57 pm

    OK, I’m jealous. Really. I think I might hate you for a second… OK, second’s over. But still.

    I hope you have fun! I say through broken windows and kids who won’t listen to a word I say and boys who fingerpaint in poop. Seriously, wth?!

    No, honestly, I hope you have a great time. And that last picture of Audrey, she has such beautiful blue eyes. Though she also seems to be looking at you like, “What? You’re leaving? And I can’t go? Really? This sucks”.

  5. Melissa

    April 5, 2011 10:22 pm

    Haha, I’m with Crystal. ;) Since G’s parents live in Hungary, we only have my parents to babysit–but my mom & dad are in their 60s, and now that the boys RUN. NONSTOP. ALL DAY, I really don’t have it in my heart to ask my parents to watch them for more than a day… they’d probably end up in the hospital from exhaustion, lol. And now our family vacation to the ocean is not happening either since G’s grandma died last week and we’re spending $1000 on a plane ticket to Hungary (whenever his paperwork goes through). So I’m stuck here in crappy Ohio AND I have to watch the kids alone while G goes home for a week. *sigh* I hope it’s ok if I allow myself to be jealous for FIVE seconds… ;)

    Maggie and Audrey will do great and I’m sure they’ll love being with grandparents all week! And you and Dan totally deserve a vacation alone together… no justification or explanation necessary. Anyone with kids just KNOWS. :) I hope you guys have an amazing trip!! What a memorable birthday it will be for you!

  6. Jennifer

    April 6, 2011 8:53 am

    Oh my goodness, I just stumbled onto your blog and reading this post just made me go, yes, yes, I need to look at my husband like he’s my HUSBAND and not the baby-bather! This is so right on. Hope y’all have fun on your trip. I’m jealous! :)

  7. Jen

    April 6, 2011 12:07 pm

    That baby has some amazing eyes. Have fun in Vegas. The weather is a little cloudy today, but I am sure it will be better than what you have there.

  8. Judi

    April 6, 2011 1:35 pm

    Have a WONDERFUL TIME!! Where are you staying? Dan works quite a bit in Vegas so he’s been to just about all the big hotels there. I’ve had the opportunity to go with him on only two trips, one to Waikiki and one to Kauai, and it’s the absolute best. Especially when he had to work and I got to lounge by the pool. BTW, we’re loving all the photos of the girls!

  9. K

    April 6, 2011 2:12 pm

    As you’ve been tweeting/mentioning your vacation, I’ve been trying to evaluate if T and I are ready for such an exursion. We’ve never been away together without them and I’m not sure how I feel about it. I think I’m 50% ready.

    I think the other 50% lays in Iris’ feeding minutia and not wanting to “burden” someone with it as well as the fact that Ezra sleeps best at home versus at someone else’s house.

    But besides those two things, I have a deep-seeded readiness to shake a leg one long weekend.

    I hope you enjoy yourself ten times over.

  10. Kate

    April 7, 2011 10:37 am

    Awesome! And I’m totally jealous. I hear ya on the ‘need for a break’. Have a great trip and a Happy Birthday! And TOTALLY get that massage!

  11. Ginger

    April 11, 2011 11:37 am

    have FUN this week!! We’ve not left the kiddos since, well. one night away since Cate was born, and it was more like just a couple hours last fall for G’s birthday…
    We were supposed to be on a beach this Spring with G’s graduation, but the new house took care of that! But, it’s a new house, so how can I complain??
    ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY!!! And have a great birthday!!!

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