is there an echo in here?

We continue to be reminded that Maggie hears everything we say. Notice I didn’t say LISTENS to everything we say, because well, she’s almost three and if she listened to everything we said, we’d be on the news and possibly millionaires because that would mean we held the SECRET TO PARENTING.

Oh how I wish.

She hears everything we say and eventually- hours, days, sometimes weeks later- it comes back out of her mouth toward us. “DON’T SAY NO TO ME!” or “YOU NEED TO BE NICE!” (Complete with finger-pointing!)

A few weeks ago in the car, we were listening to Miranda Lambert’s “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” (or “CRAZY GIRL!” as Maggie likes to call it) The next song came on, and Maggie asked me what song it was. I told her “Dry Town”. She said “Oh.” and that was that.

This morning as we were pulling out of the garage, out of nowhere, she said, “I wanna listen to Dwy Town!”

Dan said she did the same thing to him today on the way home from daycare. Weeks ago she asked who sang a song they were listening to, and he said “Green Day”. Then today, she asked about another song, and he said he wasn’t sure who it was. She said, “Maybe Green Day?”

Her mind, a steel trap.

Last night the wheels started turning on the whole Getting Rid of The Pacifier Thing. It was purely accidental. We checked on her before bed and she had spit it out. So Dan took it from her crib and we thought, let’s just see how this goes! Then I looked at it more closely and saw it was torn. OH NOOOOO! It’s the last one we have in the house and I VOWED not to buy another one (I even told Maggie that.)

So. This was it. We were REALLY DOING THIS, OMG. HOLD ME.

Of course, at 3am when she woke up fussing and fumbling around her crib, looking for her pacifier, I gave in and let her have the stupid thing. I’d explain in the morning. IT’S 3AM, NO ENERGY FOR EXPLANATIONS. In the morning, I showed her that it was broken and told her we needed to throw it away. She gave me a weird look, but when we came downstairs for breakfast, she threw it in the trash with me.

WHOA.

We talked about sleeping without it tonight, like a Big Girl! and she was okay with that. We mentioned it again at dinner. But then, after her bath tonight as she was getting on her pajamas, she asked for her pacifier. When I reminded her we didn’t have any more pacifiers, she MELTED into tears and sobs. All through pajamas, brushing her teeth, combing her wet hair, she kept crying, “I wanna be a BAY-BEE!” and “I want my ba-ba!” (which apparently means bottle, which CRACKS me up because it’s been a year and a half since she’s had a bottle!)

Dan came up to see what the fuss was about, and I said, “Oh, someone just isn’t wanting to grow up.”

We eventually calmed her down, read a few books, and put her to bed. We let her have as many stuffed animals and toys as she wanted in there with her.

She was fine for a few minutes, but then I heard her yelling. I couldn’t tell what was saying until I got closer to her room:

“I DON’T WANNA GROW UP!”

She’s been in there for nearly an hour and still isn’t asleep. She’s having trouble winding down, in there babbling and looking at a book, but at least she’s not crying.

Wish us luck.

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  • Wishing you guys the best. I tried to put Z down today for a nap without a paci and she screamed BLOODY MURDER. I shoved that thing in her mouth, her eyes closed and she wiped out in a nanosecond!
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    • We’ve tried a few times, but gave up quickly. I wasn’t too concerned about it and honestly, I wasn’t planning on doing it already! But since it was torn, I figured let’s just go for it. In some ways, it’s easier now than when she was little because at least I know she understands what’s going on. But in some ways, that’s harder ;) Because she TOTALLY understands what’s going on. LOL

       
  • I wish you all the luck in the world kid. We’re lettin’ Big Tom cry it out at night. Last night he was up for a 90 minute stretch and screamed the whole time. Hopefully he gets better at sleeping and hopefully Maggie catches on too. I tend to agree with both of them though – I don’t want them to grow up either.

     
     
     
    • oh crying it out suuuuuucks. We had to do it twice. It worked, but DAMN. How long have you been working at it? It only took Maggie about a week to get the hang of things- until the 18 month sleep regression, then we did it again for about a week. Good luck, dude.

       
  • Oh poor thing! That’s why Jonathan often tells me…”Me baby…” I’m pretty sure there are days he doesn’t want to grow up. Seriously…growing up can suck.

    OK. No seriously…I hope things work with the pacifer. I know what you are going through…only I have to get my kid out of my bed and into his own!

     
     
     
  • Reminds me of when my daughter was little. Same thing happened. We had one pacifier left and it tore. She would only use that exact kind and at 1AM (when she woke up) nothing was open that carried it. We were ready for her to pitch a fit but she just said, “Oh,” when I told her she’d have to wait til the next day and went right to sleep. When we got her a new one she wasn’t interested it in. I totally lucked out. I hope Maggie doesn’t have too much trouble with it!
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  • Oliver never took a pacifier, so we never encountered this, but I can only imagine how hard it would be. Good luck! I hope it’s not too traumatic for any of you. :(
    .-= Melissa’s last blog post: battle of the baby bulge, round two =-.

     
     
     
  • Be strong! It might be tough for a couple of days but then it will be over!
    .-= the ambitious mrs’s last blog post: I’m Okay =-.

     
     
     
  • You can do it. It is tough. I had a pacifier baby and a thumb sucker baby. The pacifier baby got over his when he lost the last one, and I told him they were all gone. He was almost 2, so after a few days he was fine. The thumb sucker baby lasted till she was 6. We tried everything. I ended up putting pepper nail polish on her thumb when she was asleep, and it was finally done after a few days. Of course she was TICKED. I felt like a horrible mommy.
    BUT it is all worth it. :) Good Luck!
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    • I was a thumb-sucker till age 8, so yeah. I’m very glad it’s something I can just remove from the situation! Thumbs… not so much.

       
  • Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand cue reason I never gave my second baby a pacifier. Going through this once was enough,

    Now, he’s 18 months and still takes a nighttime bottle. Guess we can’t win them all.
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    • I believe every baby/kid has their Thing. Hers is the pacifier, for sure. Hopefully that means we’ll avoid the hot-pink mohawk phase when she’s a teenager. ha

       
  • I think it’s OK to not want to grow up when you’re still a toddler. It’s when they’re 25 screaming I DON’T WANT TO GROW UP when I see a problem. =)

     
     
     
    • LOL very good point! I told her I didn’t want her to grow up either, but life sucks, kid. She just stared at me. ha

       
  • Lol, I still say I don’t want to grow up and I’m almost 28! :)

    My sister in law is weaning my nephew from them already at 18 months. I’m not sure how much success she is going to have with that one!
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  • we can put Heidi in bed by 9 and she’ll still be up talking until 1am. we used to have a nightlight in there, and the other day (when I was soooo tired and just wanted her to stop making noise and go to sleep already), i stormed into her room and took out the light.. we let her cry and whine for an hour and she eventually gave up and passed out.

    we haven’t put the nightlight back in since, and now we even shut her door to a crack (and we have to put her laundry bin in front to keep the cat out, grr), and ever since then she’s been falling asleep within 30 minutes..

    AH PEACE.
    good luck :)

     
     
     
  • Andrew’s really into being a “big boy” right now. Asking him if he wants to be a big boy and do something like a big boy works. I’m totally milking this while it lasts.
    GL with the paci! Never been there but it doesn’t sound fun!
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  • Also, I have a kid who isn’t attached to anything, but usually “replacing” the object or desire in question works. I’ll say “No, Andrew, you’re going night-night with your moon, remember?” and then he gets distracted by the idea of his moon (which he loves). I’ve also heard of people using new stuffed animals, doll, whatever. Have you tried something like this? I’m not sure how distractible your kid is.
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    • ha. Yes we tried that. She’s not AT ALL distractable (gets that from her mother, unfortunately!) So far it’s not that bad- 2 hrs of relatively non-fussy fighting sleep last night, slept through until 8am, then 90 minutes of fighting nap today (a little more cranky about things but she was sooo tired) We’re on our way, I think :)

       
  • good luck. Also, I live in a dwy town. It’s a real shame.
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